I take myself out at least 3 or 4 times a week. In other words, I spend a lot of time alone. It’s concerning how frightened of ourselves we have become. When was the last time you sat with yourself in silence and no distractions? Stared into space for no reason, stared up at the ceiling to fall asleep, sat on the toilet without a phone? Humanity is suffering from self avoidance. We don’t give our minds time to process, and we don’t truly sit into our energies unless we’ve been triggered. You’d be surprised what you discover about yourself when you’re at neutral.
Me being interested in dining out, lifestyle, and travel really manifested from an interest in learning myself. What do I actually like vs. what have I been conditioned or socialized to like. Do I participate in certain vibes and energy because I see others do so or because I genuinely enjoy it? I am not the same person I was 5 years ago, and each time you shed a skin, you have to relearn yourself. You have to continue to date yourself.
A lot of people asked me how I’ve been able to spend so much time alone traveling, at the park, at a restaurant, at a bar, at the movies, and I understand their curiosity. Yet, my answer is simple: I enjoy my company, treat myself like a friend, and treat myself like I would treat a partner. I give myself benefit of the doubt, extra effort, affection, affirmations, and patience. I treat myself the same way I treat a man I might be interested in. If we prioritized the relationship we have with ourselves the same way we did the relationship we have with someone who can provide love, validation, pleasure, and security, where would we be as people? If you gave yourself as many chances, as many talks, as many resources, where would you be?
All of us want an opportunity. Whether it’s to be seen clearly, for money, for a job, or a chance. Do you consider yourself worthy for it? If you don’t, why should anyone else? You are the first person who needs to think you’re good enough. You set the tone for how capable you are of being loved, and it truly starts with yourself.
